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THINK SMALL...LOSE BIG....GET FIT 2010
| Posted at 01:58 PM on January 24, 2010 |
In order to make lifestyle changes in your life you need to start with a mental transformation. To accomplish and succeed at a stronger, healthier body you need to change your mindset.
WOMEN AND SAYING NO
| Posted at 08:44 AM on September 19, 2009 |
From: Karen & Pat, The Busy Mom Experts
To: Shellyann
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HOW TO SAY "NO"
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Women are notoriously known for having a difficult time saying
"no". This word has just two letters, yet we carry it around like
an extremely large dictionary...for some of us, it weighs heavily in
our hearts when we have to say "no".
We were not born with a built-in gene that must say "yes" to every
request that comes our way. So why do we feel compelled to give our
time away to others?
Each one of us has a barrage of reasons why we just can't say "no"
to our neighbor, friend, co-worker, loved one or family member. How
many tasks on your "To Do" lists are there because of other
people's requests? Are you frustrated with yourself for responding
to others in the same old way? Why not try something different!
I think it's just so simple...exercise...build your "no" muscles. I
can hear the "moans" right now...exercise, ugh! Here are 4 tips to
start exercising now. By the way, this kind of exercise can be fun.
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STEP 1
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Create of list of the times you said "yes" when you wanted to say
"no". Have fun, become absurd, and still capture all those times
when you just wanted to say "no". You can do this exercise with a
friend...she too may be struggling with the "can't say no disease".
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STEP 2
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Next to each time you said "yes", put the name of the person you
said "yes" to and why. No judgments allowed here...just become
aware of your choices and your decisions.
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STEP 3
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Did you find that one person was taking a lot of your time? Or did
a certain situation surface that you are good at and everyone
always asks for your help? Let's try an experiment. For the next 30
days, each day say "no" at least once to that person or to one
situation that you would normally say "yes" to.
Making a change can bring up anxiety in a person, so start slowly
with your "no" responses. If you do it for 30 days, once a day, you
will become more flexible with your "no's".
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STEP 4
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Keep a journal - every day take time to write on what you said "no"
to, to whom, and how you felt after having done so. You may have a
whole range of reactions...from guilt to ecstasy (what took me so
long!). The writing doesn't have to take long, just enough time to
capture the experience for you. You are exercising your "change"
muscles.
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FINAL THOUGHTS
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Ask yourself, "What is the best use of my time right now? If I say
"yes" to this request, what will I have to remove from my current
"To Do" list to make time for this new request?"
We all have to make choices with our time, so prioritize what is
important for you to be confident and contented in your life, and
let go of the rest. If you use guilt as the guide for your
decisions, each time you say "yes" to something you really don't
want to do, you give away a bit of your happiness.
From now on, exercise your "no" muscles.
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Please share with your colleagues,
associates, friends and family.
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Our Best Regards,
Karen & Pat
www.womensgroupbusybites.com
THE SPIRIT OF THE COMMUNITY
| Posted at 10:23 AM on August 01, 2009 |
Want a better community? Start in your own backyard. Find the spirit.
For me and my children, its about having a sense of connection to a place and responsibility to other people in that community. We are suppose to look out for each other..........85 % of Americans feel less connected to their neighbors today than two decades ago. Neighborhoods and the spirit of neighborliness are old fashioned virtues that we've have lost track of.
Life is more fun, easier and more satisfying if you have a connection with people you live among.
Here are ways to rekindle your neighborhood.
Invite a neighbor over for coffee or a cookout, form an association it can tackle problems or take advantage of an opportunity , create your own gathering place such as a yard or field. There are a lot of neighbors out there waiting for one or two people to become a spark plug.
